Instead of making her a better teacher for autistic kids, instead of making me a better autism translator, fourth grade made James a better student.
If this holiday get-together is a chance to showcase my children, to enter them in a competition for best all-around kid in the family, I forfeit.
Just as warnings aren’t enough for some kids, reassurances aren’t either. Gambling offers a middle ground between hovering and hands-off.
The pacifier was a sign of weakness, of immaturity, of difference…. James was attending a regular pre-Kindergarten, and I thought he needed to look like a regular pre-Kindergartner. Even in bed.
If you don’t have kids and you’re still reading, don’t be tempted to use this list as birth control. It might have worked for me back in the day, but I can’t get up to irrigate the toilet hinges without pointing out one last thing.
“Mom,” he said, “Let the girl shave her legs. She looks like a gorilla.”
It was the nicest thing he’d ever done for me.
The culture has changed between my childhood and Margot’s, but brain development hasn’t. Children still learn about all types of differences over time. So maybe I’m the one who needs to relax.